Defeated

I've used this word a time or too.  For the record I will not use this word again.  It was brought to my attention we are not defeated if we are a child of God.

2 Corinthians 4:9
persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

We will be persecuted there will be many times you will hear the wrong advice. Be very careful with your friends or family with the advice they give.  Make sure that it lines up with the word of God.  We both were persecuted for fighting for our marriage, if we both had listen to advice from people we would not be together today.  I was trying my best to draw near to God just as Mike was trying and succeeding in drawing near to God.

When the two of us were both drawing near to God and to please Him, what do you think happened?  Yes, He drew near to both of us and wrapped His arms around us into one with Him.  How amazing is our God?

Here is Godly advice from a Godly brother, when I texted "Defeated".

God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power (you for sure) and of might and a sound mind. God is going to prevail and show you that He is greater than these issues. He built the world!!!! Think of it!!! He built the world in 7 days!!! We serve an amazing God! Be strong. Be faithful. Believe, you and Mike have endured hardship beyond belief! Trust God. Our God is greater than any circumstance we face.

Now that is Godly, advice.

Defeated, No!! Stronger yes! We will all endure issues in our marriage, but please remember the God that joined you together is still the same God that is willing to put your marriage back together better than before.  Please give Him the opportunity to do this, you will not be disappointed.