Words

2 Corinthians 10:5
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 

What is in your heart will come out of your mouth.  If we permit wrong thoughts to dwell in our hearts, we will ultimately speak them.  Yes I did.  Whatever is hidden in our hearts, our mouths will sooner or later express openly.  Satan will lie to us, he will try to plant wrong thoughts and make us think things that are not true.

There is to much at stake in our marriages not to be diligent to guard our hearts and to fill it full of God's truth.  We must have a renewing of our mind daily.

I had to take responsibility before God, and ask for His grace to change me for speaking words that were not full of faith or pleasing to Him or others.

Proverbs 13:3
"He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin."

For instance, when someone would ask about the situation or wanted details of the situation, I would give gruesome details and discuss how unfair and painful the entire thing was.  I would then find myself upset and taking my hurt out on Mike all over again.

I actually upset myself by how I chose to talk about our situation.  Instead of speaking words that would glorify God I let it become a bad habit for me. 

I decided to break the bondage that the enemy had me captured in. I began praying, God please speak through me for I know what your word says about the heart.  Cleanse my heart and make it pure with pleasing words to glorify you.

God has taught me that I can increase my own peace and joy by the things I say or the ones I don't permit myself to say.  God's word encourages me to think about what words I will use before I speak.

James 1:19
"Let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry."